Family Connections

In the unique world of military life, making and sustaining family connections can sometimes be a challenge. Between deployments, relocations, and the daily demands of service, how can military families ensure that they remain close knit and supportive? Family spoke with Coast Guard spouse Jennifer Cummins about how she helps her family make lasting connections.

Stationed at the U.S. Coast Guard Headquarters in Washington, D.C., Jennifer’s husband is CMS1 (Petty Officer 1st Class) Andrew Cummins, and their children are Olivia Cummins (7) and Lincoln Cummins (5).

What’s one of the first things you’ve done when you’ve PCS’d to connect with other families?

Before PCSing to a new location, I always connect on Facebook to local groups. First, I always try to find the local Coast Guard spouse group, or if it is in a place like Washington, D.C., there is such a mix of military spouses here the options for groups are endless. One of the reasons I love connecting before I move [is] because I can use the groups as a local resource of which neighborhoods to house hunt. Plus, I can plan ahead and schedule a coffee date with some of the locals once we arrive. Other spouses are generally willing and ready to help you since they’ve been in the same boat. Our community has no problem jumping in and helping each other.

What’s something you have found works for making those connections?

It can be stressful moving to a new location and meeting new people. But one of the nice things about our military community is we can all relate to having to relocate. And something that is very important to me is I am always myself. I find that I can make an impactful connection with a local group when I’m straightforward. I like to make a joke or post a funny meme which is an instant icebreaker! And it gets people commenting on the post and sometimes even responding with a joke. This instantly paints you a picture of who your new tribe will be. And I also like to include a photo of my family to introduce myself.

What’s something you would tell a spouse who’s getting ready to move for the first time about making connections?

That first time can be so overwhelming! But it doesn’t have to be. First, look up Facebook groups for the base and in areas of interest at your new location. It doesn’t necessarily have to be military spouse groups, either. Widen your reach and look for local mom groups, business networking, or craft groups—you name it. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable. We’ve all been in the same position. You will find those connections you are looking for, and you may end up making a best friend or two along the way.

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