Post PCS - Settling in and Creating a Home (Again)

One of the challenges with relocating is creating a home and settling into that new space. Military families are used to moving, but an emotional connection occurs in a shared space as a family. Uprooting from that space can add unwelcome stress. But if the family finds a way to welcome each move, it can seem more like an adventure than something negative. Part of the adventure comes with settling into the new space and creating that “home” feeling for each family member.

Family spoke with army spouse Heather Scammon, married to Sergeant Major Richard Scammon, about how they settled in and created that “home” feeling with their recent move to Fort Knox, Kentucky for themselves and their two children, Micah (13) and Madison (9).

How many times have you PCS’d?

We have PCS’d seven times—five of those times in the past seven years. Our most recent move was from Kansas to Kentucky in July of this year. While each move does bring challenges, it’s also allowed us to become pros at moving, from the pre-move to the settling in and creating a feeling of being home.

What does “home” mean to you?

To me, home is where your family is, whether you live close to your immediate family or the friends who become like family. Military life often means being far from your extended family, which is why the people you meet and surround yourself with at the new location are so important. They become a support system for you and your family, and you can return the support. There’s camaraderie among spouses, which creates a warm and welcoming environment. This adds to that feeling of “home” no matter where you’re stationed.

Is there anything you do before moving that helps settling in become more effective?

Absolutely. Preparation is key. As you’re packing, try to be as organized as possible. Also, take the time to declutter and purge before your move.

Clearly label your boxes and pack items room by room. Being organized before the move allows you to focus more on settling in and less on sorting out chaos.

What are your best ways to settle in and create a home again?

Once we arrive at our new location, I will set up the house as fast as possible. The sooner everything is unpacked, the faster you and your family can explore the new area. This creates a knowledge of the surroundings and helps everyone feel more connected to the place.

Is there anything else you’d like to add, especially for a new spouse who might be moving for the first time?

If it’s your first move, don’t be afraid to ask for help and advice from others who have moved. There’s a wealth of knowledge within our community. Most spouses are more than happy to share their tips and tricks with you or to lend a hand. Remember— start early. Collect boxes, pack, and label. Make a checklist of everything you and your spouse need to do. Attend the briefings with your spouse, too. Creating a home is about the little things—familiar items, routines, and a positive mindset can go a long way in making a new place feel like yours.