Starting school is exciting for some but challenging for others. How does a parent help a child through the transition to a new school? Family spoke with Army spouse, Regine, who has relocated four times with her two children, about her experience.

What did you find was the most challenging part of transitioning to a new school?

The hardest thing is watching them leave their friends behind and start over. Seeing them nervous about fitting in or adjusting to new routines breaks my heart. Every school is different, and sometimes they’re ahead in one subject but behind in another, which adds stress. Emotionally, the children carry the weight of missing old friends while trying to be brave.

How did you face those challenges?

Regardless of when and where we move, I focus on creating stability at home. I keep communication open, listen to their concerns, and reassure them it is okay to feel uncertain or emotional. I also stay in touch with their teachers early on to track their academic progress and encourage them to get involved in school activities. We keep family routines at home because they provide comfort and security. I want my kids to feel seen and supported.

What advice do you have for parents going through a first-time transition?

Be patient with your child and with yourself. Every child adjusts in their own way and time. Most importantly, listen without judgment and let them express how they feel. A stable, supportive home and reminding them they are not alone can make an enormous difference.

Here are a few key tips:

• Stay involved by meeting teachers and learning the school routines.
• Encourage your child to join activities where they can meet peers, but do not rush it.
• Trust your instincts and do not hesitate to ask for help from school counselors, other military families, or community resources.
• Keep a positive attitude, because your child will take cues from you.
• Celebrate small victories, like making a new friend or mastering a new subject, to build confidence.

Remember, transitions are complex, but they also teach resilience and adaptability that will serve your child for life.