There are countless benefits to joining the spouse’s club. Family spoke with Heather Alvarado to hear why this longtime volunteer continues to find “friendship, connection, and community” in them. Heather is married to retired Air Force Colonel Tony Alvarado. They have one child - Niki (18).
Why are spouse’s clubs an important part of the military spouse's life?
Military spouse clubs have been a cornerstone of this lifestyle for generations—and for good reason. They offer something truly invaluable: a sense of belonging in a world that’s constantly changing.
We live a life where the community is often temporary, friendships are scattered across time zones, and support systems have to be rebuilt every few years. Spouse clubs help bridge that gap. They give us a place to land, connect, and contribute. They remind us that we’re not doing this alone.
But it’s not just about social events (though those can be a lifeline, especially in a new place). It’s about purpose. These clubs offer opportunities to lead, to give back, and to grow alongside others who understand the unique challenges of this lifestyle. Whether you're brand new or decades in, there's something powerful about walking into a room full of people who get it.
They foster connection, strengthen our communities, and give us a chance to support each other through the highs and lows—celebrating milestones, mourning losses, and everything in between.
At the heart of it, military spouse clubs aren’t just a “nice to have”—they’re an anchor. A reminder that no matter where we go, we have people, purpose, and a place to belong.
What have your roles been within the clubs?
Over the last 13 years, I’ve volunteered in various roles across several different spouse clubs. My first board position was as the Socials Chair—because I (still) love event planning! The second year, I stepped into the President role.
After that, I took a step back and served as 1st Vice President. I wanted to make space for a younger spouse to gain that leadership experience and bring a fresh perspective.
Then we moved, and I took a year off. Shortly after, I was hired as the Thrift Shop Manager to help reopen it after it had been transferred from another organization to the spouse club.
At our next location, I joined the board as the Fundraising Chair, then moved into the 1VP role, and eventually served as President for two years.
At our last duty station, I wasn't planning to serve on the board—but as military life often goes, plans change. I was asked to step in midyear to fill the Reservations Chair after someone PCS’d. The following year, I served as President once again right before our move.
Each of these roles has shaped my experience as a military spouse and deepened my appreciation for the power of these clubs. They’ve given me purpose, lifelong friendships, and a front-row seat to the incredible things military spouses can do when we come together.
What is your favorite thing about military spouse clubs?
For me, the heart of spouses' clubs has always been about connection and community. I’ve had the honor of serving in several roles and every single one has reminded me how powerful it is when military spouses come together. These clubs create a space where we can belong, grow, and thrive—no matter where the military sends us.